Valora,

I would love to think my ex would grow and seek help but he maintains he’s content as he is. He kept saying to me ‘this is who i am, maybe some people were born to be alone’. I don’t doubt there are people in this life who are content being on their own. My ex likes his own company, his own schedule. But I also know, he’s not someone who is ‘meant’ to be alone.

He had almost taken the step to see a therapist before we split, but then he just decided it was all too much and he didn’t want it to be that hard anymore where he had to work out feelings and face fears and he decided fate was telling him, you’re not meant to be in a relationship.

He won’t come back. He wanted to see me so much the first time we split and yet didn’t so much as text for months. It was me who instigated it again. This time will be the same, he just moves on and doesn’t think too much about it.

You’re right about not waiting to move forward, but I’m stalled at the moment. The life ahead of me is not one I want therefore it makes me in no rush to go and live it. I know that sounds crazy but it’s just where I’m at at the moment.