Shelby,

It is beyond me how families are able to put that responsibilities on their children. I don’t know if that’s perhaps because of the structure of my family or cultural background but it is just not something that sits right with me.

My family have always encouraged me to go out into the real world and make a life of my own. Mainly so that they can see I’m doing okay and that they don’t have to worry about me. We all get to a certain age where it’s just normal to bloody grow up! But I suppose some people grow old but not grow up.

Its actually quite sad that your ex felt that due to the responsibilities around his family he felt he could care for another person in his life. Personally I think that’s quite damaging for him, but I suppose he knows no different if that’s how his family structure has always been.

Mark my words though, he will regret letting you go. Probably when it is far too late but he will think of you when he is old and sad and lonely and think of the wonderful woman who wanted nothing but a life with him and he will regret some of the choices he made in his life.

I’m going to have a listen to the link you sent just before bed! I’ll let you know how I get on 🙂