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Feathering my nest
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Possibly tomorrow – I did cancel on him yesterday in light of having to go to hospital.

 

If I meet him I’ll give him the gift.

His said he was worried about meeting me for it might ‘open old wounds’ for me and be ‘uncomfortable’. This was thoughtful of him, but I think I will explain to him that the wound (that of the old anger) is already open and I strongly believe in sitting with uncomfortable feelings in order to learn from them.

As Nikos Kazantzakis wrote; “The true meaning of enlightenment is to gaze with undimed eyes on all darkness.” (He loves the existentialist philosophy and literature.)

Tell him I’ve figured I’ve got anger issues and that angry people struggle to listen and struggle to empathize properly. On that basis I’d be curious to hear his side of the story, if he is willing to share it. I won’t go into details unless he asks and I’ll be hesitant to share some of those details unless we get a relationship that is more stable going.

 

We are going to a pub that has loads and loads and loads of cats- that come and sit on your lap, the bar, the table… wherever they feel like. And there are kittens as well. 😀 You can cuddle cats in the pub. I thought that would be a good location.