Dear John:

You are welcome.

You wrote: “she wants out now before we hate each other” and she “also still wants to sleep together”- why does  she want to have sex with you: is it that she has a strong sex drive that can’t wait, nd if this is the case, will you be there to satisfy it until she finds another man?

Or is there another reason?

You wrote a lot about you changing. On another thread you wrote: “I am more than ever driven to change.. she will see me become the man she originally fell in love with”, and here, in your recent post, you wrote, “Like the  last shred of hope that I will change like she thinks I won’t, and magically we will fall back in love”-

More often than not, I believe, a woman falls in love with a man not because of who the man is, but because of who the woman needs the man to be, who she wishes him to be, and that wish existed before meeting the man they needed before ever meeting the man. All this time of you trying  to change, it may have  been that you were trying  to change back into a Fantasy she had in mind.

I don’t think it is a good idea that you sleep with her, better set a bed in a separate room with a closed door.

anita