I’m struggling this evening. It’s over 2 months since my ex broke up with me and I’m not over it. I’m not over him. I’m extremely lost without him and I spoke to my sister today and she says it’s up to me to change my life and live a better one.

I feel like I’m doing everything I possibly can, but my core feelings are not changing. I want to be back in his life. How am I going to come to terms with this? Anyone reading this thread will know, there is not a option to go back, so what fantastical daydream am I living in?

I don’t know if this will help any, but 2 months really isn’t that long, especially depending on how you felt in your relationship. It literally took me at least 7 months to start feeling good again but I’d still cry often and missed him terribly and then it took another 3 months to feel better regularly, and now, a year after the breakup, I feel almost 100% back to normal. I still have my days where I get sad and wish he was still in my life, but they are much, much fewer now and I am not at all worried about whether or not I’ll find love again. I’m just sort of enjoying the good I have in my life. So be patient with yourself and give yourself as much time as you need. Allow yourself to feel what you need to feel so that you can then let it go. No matter how long it takes you. It’s okay to not be over it yet and it’s okay to still be sad. I was sad for soooo many months and it HAS gotten better… way, way better. This year has been HARD for me, but working through all of the struggle has made me learn a lot about myself and it’s set me on a path that I’m happy to be on.  These things just take time and some soul searching, but you can come out of it better than you ever were before.