Dear Ben:

I don’t think he is capable of the relationship you wish to have, no matter with whom. I don’t think he is capable. And I don’t think he is willing. He wants something friendly, a bit here, a bit there, says things, even feels things at the moment, gets along, says and does what feels nice to you, and therefore to him, so that when he is with you he feels good. When away… he really is away in every way.

If you agree, if I am correct, then it is not possible,  in reality, to have with him more than what you had, which is not even close to being adequate.

anita