Dear Ben:

“not  self-guilt. not telling myself I did something bad”- I agree. You didn’t do anything bad at all when you travelled to Brazil looking for love, that was as natural and… as good as good can be. Love is a good thing.

A mistake, yes, but how can you learn if you don’t make choices- you learn and make better choices. Unlike some organisms  who operate by instincts alone, or emotion alone, we humans are not born with the wisdom that is required to think correctly, and incorporate our thinking well into our choices- that has to be learned.

You are learning. Your recent post indicates learning-in-progress.

anita