Dear Magdalene:

It seems to me that you are taking way more  responsibility for him withdrawing from you than is yours. His complex relationship with  his ex who  is still in his life and has been throughout the time you knew him, has way more power in his withdrawal from you than anything  to do with you. His depression is  a powerful factor in his withdrawal.

You were in a very challenging situation: emotionally involved  with a troubled  man,  one  not free from his attachment to another woman still in his life.

I understand  you feeling alone and devastated about the loss of what you hoped for, but I don’t see anything you  have done wrong to bring about his withdrawal.

I hope you post again with more of your thoughts  and feelings.

anita