Hi Anita,

Thank you for the suggestion. I am not sure how I feel about that, I feel it’s such a dramatic step– to coordinate their times with a newborn baby and to meet via online when I am sure they would careless about meeting me. It feels imposing?  Perhaps quite frankly I am not interested in meeting her and just want to move past this?  Perhaps I can suggest I would like to meet this great friend of yours sometime later?

I do have another question though, my bf is home now for Thanksgiving, in his home state, where she also lives. I am afraid/ almost certainly sure that they are in contact? as he was supposed to go to her baby shower a few months ago and couldn’t make it and now would’ve been a great time to meet up as he is back home.

During our last discussion about this issue, he said that he’s now afraid that I will never get over the issue and I am afraid that he won’t tell me anything relating to her again?

– Should I ask him if he’s meeting up with her during this visit? If so, how?

– Or let it be and see if he brings it up to me?

Thank you!