Dear Feathering:

Before reading your recent three posts this very  morning, I re-thought my last post to you: if he was definitely aware that  you messaged him, seeing that there is an unopened message from you, and if he was not terribly busy with work or some emergency, having to attend to something else, then he saw that you messaged  him but didn’t bother  to open and read it. If he saw it repeatedly, was not busy, but chose to not read it, what does it  mean?

1. He is not interested, not curious, you are  not important to him.

2. He is interested but  wants to punish you, teach you a lesson, make you suffer, etc.

Either one is not good. So I say don’t buy him the yoga gift and  ignore his birthday. Don’t message  him again. If and when he messages you, do not assume anything but look at the content of the message and respond not angry, not passive aggressive, but short, polite and to the point. Don’t suggest to see  him, don’t  offer gifts, nothing like that. After all, he doesn’t care enough to read a message  from you hour after hour, day after day (#1) or he wants to punish you (#2), and  why would you want anything with someone  who wants  you to suffer?

anita