Dear Anita,

Thank you so much for your prompt responses. I meant to chat with you directly.

I actually just spoke to him and asked if he has been in contact with her/if he will meet up with her and he said no as she is in another part of the state.

– I will definitely bring up being 1st vs 2nd choice and being introduced to the husband too when we see each other next(he did want me to say hello to her once when he was on the phone with her in the beginning of our relationship).

– I don’t mind losing him over this if I am indeed his 2nd choice as I am aware of what I deserve. I just don’t want to cause anymore issues over this if this doesn’t warrant the attention I am giving it (as I tend to overthink things). A great part of me feels I am overthinking this as our relationship has been great otherwise and he’s been loyal, supportive and continues to choose me despite many rifts I have caused as I am working through my attachment issues.

Thank you very much for the advice and I will tell him when I see him next!