Dear  Janus, Earth  Angel:

I read your recent  three posts. You are welcome and thank you for your appreciation of me, my pleasure to communicate with you, soon to be four years.

I agree with you on the following: “I take on more than I can handle… I try to take  on many responsibilities and  feel strained at times”. You’ve been struggling a  lot regarding friends’ demands of you.  My suggestion is to stay away from any and all  demanding friends, to have .. light friendships, nothing demanding and involved. You simply don’t have  the time  or resources to avail yourself to people’s needs and  demands. Don’t present yourself as  anyone’s friend but  be friendly, that  is all. Seek time with  people who do benefit you.

You are  a young person living with critical parents, that  is enough of a challenge, then you have demanding classes,  career objectives that  demand a  whole lot of your time, effort and  attention. And  did I mention your inner critic, aka  inner  bully?

And then, to top it  all,  you are a transgender person, my  goodness, all the challenge that  this involves! So yes, you don’t have the time  or resources to avail yourself to people’s needs and demands.

You don’t owe people what you don’t owe them. Focus on what you need. Give yourself all your time, all your attention, all your resources, this is your responsibility. Take it  seriously, don’t dilute your time, energy, focus. Put Janus  First in your life!

anita