Dear Jessica512:

I suppose that her having “her family and community” excludes loving you, she can’t have both. And  I suppose it means that she can’t be in a gay relationship in any capacity, not only the kind that is visible to her community, if she  is  to be  true to t hat community (?) . As well as following all the other non-negotiable rules of the religion.

Or it may be only what is visible that matters, I don’t know. I hope you live your  life with integrity, being true to yourself and to the  community, both.  And I hope you recover soon from this breakup. One day soon you may be very surprised that it  did happen in your life again, a loving relationship with  a woman who  is okay with it as  much as you are okay with it.

anita