Dear  Victoria:

You are welcome. Reads to me that neither  a  relationship with your mother or your boyfriend is good  for you at  this time and  for the foreseeable future. I think it  is better for you to  put a break in the relationship with  the boyfriend because it adds to your anxiety and has been adding  to your anxiety for too long.

I think you need therapy soon and a social support as  in attending a support group in person to go with therapy. Put a distance  between you and your mother, between you and your boyfriend and take it  from there.

Got to heal some from the  fear, the  original fear that  you experienced at home growing  up before you get  into a relationship with  a man.

I hope to read from you soon, anytime.

anita