Dear iamzen:

How can you possibly be Zen  (in your username), if you can’t talk  about significant things happening in a relationship, be  it a friendship or otherwise. Let’s say you resume a friendship with her, next time something significant happens, do you wait to see if she decides retroactively if it happened or not?

I understand that you are  lonely at work and that you have a long distance relationship, so you need something  close. How is the long distance relationship?

anita