Dear Yuhan:

Well, your visa will expire next year, so you were desperate for one, marrying a British citizen (and  I  assume he  is) would have solved this big problem and you could have stayed in the  UK.

And then we  all have this tendency, when we invest  a lot  in one thing and it doesn’t  work, we tend to invest more and  more because we already invested  so much.

And.. a person becomes emotionally attached to anyone, not only to honest  decent people, just being  around someone long enough, especially when lonely otherwise, is enough to bring about that attachment.

And by the  way he is responsible for being dishonest with you and harming you by being dishonest,  even if you stayed in the  relationship or gave  him another chance  and another, he is still responsible for his behavior, or I should say, misbehavior.

I  don’t know why he looks calm and acts happy, I don’t  know. Maybe if you share more in another post, I will get an idea.  Maybe another member reading your post/s will have an idea.

I wonder what are your plans for the future, will you still try to immigrate to the  UK…

I hope things  will be better  for you  soon enough, that you will not  be hard on yourself but gentle instead. I will be  back to the computer  in about sixteen hours and  hope to read more  from you when I am back.

anita