Dear Howard:

I didn’t understand the  following sentence: “She’s admitted that over the past few years she’s  let me  get into money and other bad situations just so she  could have  the  thin satisfaction of watching me squirm”- can you give a couple of examples?

I understand that you are still seeing a therapist (?) and that you have made lots of progress.  I wonder  if the  therapist suggested having your wife participate in a few sessions, conducting couple therapy, and if such was suggested to her, what  was  her response.

You want your relationship with your wife to heal and I hope it does, I hope the two of you heal/continue  to  heal and to learn, changing behaviors that need to be changed, employing what my  therapist taught me as the principle of EAR in the  communication between the two of you: Empathy, Assertiveness, Respect.

I hope to read more from you when I am back to the computer in about fifteen hours.

anita