Anita,

That was a bit vague…

She and I have been in sessions mostly together, a few individual sessions along the way, just about weekly.

The last session together last week she admitted that over the last few years she has known that I was getting into financial / hiding mistakes kinds of trouble, and didn’t say anything until the situations couldn’t be lied about anymore and deliberately laid on the anger and scorn just so she could get some satisfaction out of the new broken stuff.

Yes, still seeing the therapist, even scheduled extra appointments this past week and next.

It seems like I make my biggest strides in solo sessions with lots of EMDR.  (Otherwise I fall back in the ‘I’ll do anything we need love, I will!” pattern.)

Of your EAR< I think it’s her R that needs the next attention, but that’s still conditional waiting on me to behave differently and consistently.

Kind of hating being stuck in the middle, between the years of pain on one side and a much more positive outlook looking forward.  That’s my sticking point now.