Victoria,

Sorry to hear about your boyfriend/mum situation. I do hope that with this new space and distance will come some clarity for you. It is clear you’re in an extremely difficult situation in your personal life. I can relate completely to feeling overwhelmed and lost, it’s often how I describe myself and my situation..

Shelby,

Sorry to hear about your night! I too have been having awful dreams of my ex recently – mainly to do with him seeing other women. Now this one literally feels like a physical stab to the heart. Honestly, how can one experience physical reactions and pain to dreams?!

In regards to meeting up/contacting your ex to discuss how you’ve been feeling, many people In sure will advise against it. ‘Sometimes we don’t get all of our questions answered’ ‘You’ll end up hurting more’ etc etc.. However, from personal experience (and having been speaking with yourself for some weeks now we are quite similar in that way) getting every tiny detail off my chest, whether he wanted to hear it or respond to it was necessary for me. I will admit that I wrote him quite extensive messages explaining exactly the damage he caused to me and what that meant. I was very honest, almost brutal. More often than not I either didn’t get a response or I got one along the lines of ‘I’m sorry I wish I could help’ which frustrated me even more, YOU CAN HELP YOU IDIOT!!!! IF ONLY YOU VARED ENOUGH!! But, it did settle my mind and gave me the peace to decide to move on. And for that reason I would say if that is what sits right with you then go for it. I won’t deny that the likelihood is yes you might feel worse before you feel better but you WILL feel better after it, I promise you. I know I did…