Dear  Turtle:

So you thought he asked you to be his girlfriend so to prevent you from meeting other guys while he was away… and that, if I understand correctly, that he is not  so selective, and when there is  trouble with one woman, he looks for the “next best thing”, that is another woman so that he will not be alone, doesn’t really matter who the woman is?

If this is what you meant, it  is very  possible. This is why communication in a beginning (and all through) a relationship is so important,  to aim and develop an honest and open communication. This way the two people get to know each other better. And  each person gets to know oneself better. It is a discovery of sorts, and things don’t stay the  same over time of such ongoing  communication. It makes relationships special and  it becomes very  personal, making the  “next best thing” here-and-now, getting to know ourselves and others better, not looking for distractions elsewhere.

anita