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Dear Robi1992:
First thing, personally I am not motivated that you move to Spain. It feels like a good idea but I don’t know if it will turn out well for you. Regardless, I would like to communicate with the fear-in-you as well as with you (the you underneath the fear):
“What if I won’t find a job and I will be supported by my parents again and again?”- you don’t have a job now and you are supported by your parents now.
“What if I realize that I like it here more than I actually like it there… Being here is not that bad.. I have my friends here and if I go back to the big city I used to live in.. I could have great relationships”- what city (you don’t have to state the name of it) and what experience was that, I don’t remember…? What great relationships will you have there, people you didn’t yet meet?
Maybe that city you are referring to is a better option than Spain.
“What if I will be too shy to integrate at my workplace… if I find any”- employment possibilities is a very important consideration when considering moving anywhere, so better do the research! You mentioned the “absence of the language barrier” as far as finding employment as a photographer, and it is something to consider, as well as the factor of having contacts, “because I k now more people”, as you wrote.
“What if I will be anxious and I will have no confidence .. and as a result, I will perform badly at my workplace?”- anxiety will be a problem anywhere and everywhere, because your anxiety resides within the space between your ears and that small space is the space that matters most, the place from which you can not move and relocate.
In summary, I would say, investigate employment possibilities in Spain and in that big city you mentioned as a first priority consideration, consider language and contacts as part of such possibilities.
Oh, regarding your birthday being on the date that room in Spain will be available to you- not a sign, says I. My goodness, I can’t count the many, many times I used to see signs that were not signs, many hundreds of times. And I read from other people who see signs, same results, nothing.
anita