Dear Claire:

You’ve been in a relationship with this man Sept 2017- Oct 2018. He lives with his parents and the  plan, before his father’s diagnosis, was that the  two of you move in together Feb 2019, and then, if the living  together works out, get married six months after, summer of 2019 at the earliest.

Following his father’s diagnosis he told you that his plans changed, that he will not be moving in with you Feb 2019, but remain living with his parents.  If his father becomes stable, he  will consider moving in with you Feb 2021 or so. You suggested to  him that he moves in with you as planned and take care of his father when visiting  him, a 20 minute travel away from the home he and you will be sharing, but he refused.

My questions at this point:

Is your now ex boyfriend’s  mother unable to take care  of her husband?

Is your now ex boyfriend available to  take care  of his father 24/7; isn’t he  employed?

anita