First reaction reading your reply was “ why she bringing up my last relationship? And it was anger

you are absolutely right !

I had a very angry mother who used to hit us a lot anger is something I do not like or want reading it back to me sounds childish and reactive . He has done things to justify me to be angry but I think aswell it’s an abandonment thing as my dad left when I was 4 and didn’t keep in touch

Grateful for bringing that to my attention

I will try to resolve this calmly

much love Anita Thankyou