Shelby,

I think the key here is to let go of any thoughts of how he may be feeling or what he may be thinking – this is for YOU, never mind what he thinks/feels about the interaction! This is what YOU need so that you can move on with your life, he’s doing well at this as it is it seems!

Try to release some of that anxiety and let your rational mind kick in a little bit. Go back to your thoughts of what answers you may need from him..

There is no shame in being a human being who feels and deeply at that too! He was a major part of your life, do not be ashamed of showing a little bit of your heartbreak if need be throughout your interaction – this is only natural. Stay real and honest that’s the only way you can prevent the future what if’s. Otherwise you’ll only go back home and think ‘If only I was honest maybe it would’ve changed something!’. Tell him you are deeply disappointed and hurt by the fact that he couldn’t progress with you as you thought you were in it for the long run. Tell him its been difficult going from being partners in life to being strangers so quickly. Say anything that you may need to say. Ask him for answers. Ask him for some clarity – it is the least you deserve. Remember, you don’t have to beg or anything, just be firm and honest and keep in mind this is likely to be your last interaction so you need to get everything out on the table and affirm to yourself that once this is over, you can now release and breathe. You are now entitled to move forward with your life and live for you and you only. You are worthy. You are an incredible woman with so much to offer. This is your closure.