Dear Luli:

“What to expect after 1 year relationship?”- to know the man, would be my answer, and to know what you want with this particular man.

In the beginning you told to him that you just want to be with him (“he argues that you used to say that ‘you just want to be with me'”)- this is understandable, in the beginning stages of dating, to just want  to be with someone.  Over time, better get to know who this someone is, what he values, what he doesn’t value, what motivates him, why he does the things he does.

Then ask yourself: what do I want with this man, now that I know him?

If you would like to share about who this man is, what motivates him and so forth, please do. And then, you can address the second question.

anita