Shelby,

Perhaps you need to stop putting so much pressure on yourself to feel better or to feel like you should be over him.. I remember right at the beginning of our contact I felt that way. I was some three/four months in and felt absolutely broken, like no progress had been made at all. But we have to remember that you spent many years of your life with this person, how in the hell are you meant to get over him within weeks? Especially when you were happy with him and didn’t want to split?!

I think heartbreak goes in stages, from my experience anyway. A whole load of sadness, denial, then anger, then the whole thing of IM MOVING THE F ON! And then a whole load of sadness and despair and denial and I WILL DO ANYTHING TO GET HIM BACK! And it kinda just jumps in between those stages from one day to another… but each low day is a little better than the previous low day but yes it is just existing.. it isn’t a happy life.

Try to welcome this festive period as a different kind of distraction and tell yourself that you’ll most likely continue feeling sad for the next few months BUT you will do whatever it is to make your days a little brighter. Make a promise to yourself to do whatever it may be that’ll make you feel just a glimpse of happiness on that day.

We have been on the road for 6 hours now, another 16 to go!