Dear cranberry:

The advice you gave to another member August  2017 is a good advice for you to take, with some adjustment because  you wrote then after a breakup and currently you are still in a relationship (maybe at the time  you attended therapy which was helpful to you, and  if so, it is time to  go back!):

“I think of him all the time and  even though he’s told me he doesn’t love me anymore I still get  thoughts of hope.  But I’ve learned to realize that those  thoughts don’t help me. I  try to rewire how I think. I tell myself he  isn’t coming  back and that I’m still going to be okay.I decided to be my friend because no one can truly be there for you like you can…You are a strong individual and you can get through this… Also you don’t have to feel ashamed or embarrassed to speak to your therapist, it is their job to help…

Figure out what is it that  you want from life other than the  love of another person and make  it your goal to achieve it! When the time is right  someone who is meant for you will come  into your life”.

anita