Dear Ben:

Your friend had a thought: “I am gay” and the thought scared him, that fear fueled his search for answers, checking and rechecking and all that (HOCD). You had a thought: I don’t love my girlfriend, and that thought scared you, fueling your search online and checking behavior.

Here is the thing about OCD: it is about a person getting scared of a thought.

Now notice this: we have many thousands of thoughts every day, so does everyone else. Can we make anything happen or not happen because of a thought? For example, a person angry at another may think: I want to kill him! Does the other person die as a result of that thought?

Our thoughts have no power, these are  intangible mental activities happening in our brains, in that  short distance between our ears and not beyond  that distance.

If you learned to not be scared of your thoughts, you will have this problem solved.

anita