Dear Sonalika:

Clearly to me, you should not behave in a dominating way with him. Almost no one likes to be  dominated, and we all are born to be  free, so if you do choose to  live with him and if it does happen, don’t dominate him. It should be an equal power relationship were both parties treat each other  with EAR, standing for Empathy, Assertiveness and Respect, both parties communicate peacefully and effectively, as  well as  honestly, no dishonest  manipulations such as, let’s say, crying  so to  make  the other person feel bad,  or so that the  other person will do what you want him to do.

Another comment: it is not a good plan to live with him for a year while  you are checking to see if he is trustworthy, no one likes to  be checked, to  live like a suspect being  monitored and  followed by a police chief looking  for crimes being done. I suppose there are some  exceptional circumstances where  this  might be  a good  plan, maybe living with an alcoholic and seeing  that for a year he really  does  stay away from alcohol altogether.

But you didn’t mention him doing  something wrong other than having communicated with an ex girlfriend for a short time online, no physical meeting, if I understood correctly.

Did I understand correctly, this is the only  wrongdoing he has done that broke your trust?

anita