Hi Mimi, I am sorry for what happened to your husband. I also got sick many times recently, probably due to stress at work. I can’t understand bullies either. Any right thinking human would know that it’s never ok to treat others like crap. Like you said, I will try to divert my anger and pain by thinking of him as a little helpless man who likes to project his own self inadequacy on other people. It’s weird how he threw so much shit at me but he gets offended so easily by little things that other people say to him (once a waitress jokingly said ‘no lunch for you’ and he got so offended) I bet he’s weak and insecure on the inside. I will try not to fear him anymore:) I hope your husband gets well soon! Happy holidays!