Dear Kay:

You are new to online dating. From personal experience, it can be an effective way to locate a man for a long term love relationship if you operate it wisely. One thing to remember is that everyone gets rejected. The man who rejected you (by disappearing) was rejected himself and will be rejected again. You were rejected already and you will be rejected again.

Everyone gets rejected. The key is to figure out what kind of a man you are interested in, for what kind of a relationship, then put together the most accurate, clear profile possible, and select individuals for possible meeting in person, in a public place for face to face conversation. These conversations can be thought of, if you will, as casual interviews, where the purpose is to learn about each other’s values, goals, motivations and so on.

It is not about jumping into just anything with anyone. It is about a process of selection and evaluation so to get into a sensible, honest relationship with eyes open.

I will be back to the computer in about sixteen hours. Post again if you’d like and I will reply further when I return.

anita