Dear Bb:

Welcome back!

This current man is not your type but you are attracted to him. A photo  of him when he was younger reminded you of another man, your “first love”.

“This has made me think about why I might be attracted to  him”- well, I am guessing you were attracted to your “first love” at one point, correct?  The new man reminding you of the first love triggered that attraction, makes sense?

“and whether my feelings are real or an old, deep seated wound that has re-opened”- your feelings are real and significant emotional wounds don’t disappear, they keep vibrating pain at times,  attraction or desire at other times.

The old doesn’t go away, replaced by the new. The new, if we let it, is added   to the old and if we understand which is which, it  isn’t confusing, once  we understand, that  is.

I  hope you post more about this new relationship and I will be glad  to reply.

anita