Shelby,

You are right in saying that we need time apart to heal on our own – I just wonder if now is the time for this or rather if I should wait until after the significant date passes.. I have been discussing the particular date with my therapist since last month actually, so she knows that it is sitting in my subconscious heavy and perhaps is another reason for my constant emotional up and down. It is terrifying to know that I don’t actually know how I will respond on the day. And knowing just how bad I can actually get and that scared the sh** out of me and what pushed me to seek help in the first place, maybe he at the moment for me is that comfort blanket that right now I still need. I don’t know.

Apart from that, the romantic relationship as it stands in this moment needs to not continue. Like you say, not to say we cannot reconcile in the future but right now it is doing more damage than good – I know that.

I don’t think you realise just how far you have come to be able to say that you WANT to get back with your ex but even if the opportunity came along you would like to be in a completely different mind space, self sufficient before you do. That is major. Just a few weeks ago you would’ve jumped at any opportunity whenever, wherever! Fear or no fear you would’ve gone straight for it. Now you are really questioning whether just because you want something, is it truly good for you in the here and now? That is incredible. Honestly, you should be extremely proud of yourself!