Shelby,

you may not realise this but that approach in itself is very progressive. You should be extremely proud of yourself. You’re not feeling the need for contact as often – progress. You’re not in despair at all hours of every day – progress. You’re doing extremely well and it is so refreshing to hear.

You’re absolutely right, I have survived. Despite everything I am still here. It’s avtually something my friend mentioned to me, that I don’t realise my own strength that I have faced everything that I have faced and against all odds I am still here, alive. Not only alive but managing to hold down a job, look after myself by going to the gym, and hoping for a better future. Alright I may not go out and socialise like I used to or feel happy but I am alive and that in itself is major. I have to try and see it that way too.

He has reached out this afternoon saying that he wishes i’d come home and misses me terribly and that he wanted to let me know he’s enquired about beginning therapy himself.

Well done to him for finally accepting that the trauma affected him more than he let on. Well done on realising that he is a car crash and is ruining his life. Well done on reaching out for help. But at this point, I am not ready to speak to him so the no contact will continue from my end.

I was intrigued with the non surgical procedure too! You should definitely look into it, they have a load of videos on YouTube too! And I will definitely keep you updated on my consultation.