Dear AnxiousAsUsual:

If you want your relationship to continue, to not end, I recommend that you drop any and all pressure on him to have sex with you, to have more sex with you and that you don’t bring up sex at all. If you want the relationship to continue, that is.

You do  have the option of course to break up with him and seek a relationship with a different man who  is highly sexual and has a history of being highly sexual (that will be evidence that he is less likely to be reactive to stressful circumstances by developing ED symptoms or otherwise, expressing lower libido.

But if you want this particular man in your life, well, I gave you my suggestion in my first paragraph above. Can you do that, can you put aside sex altogether for a while, a long while maybe, and give him the space to be, to initiate and respond to conversations with you about daily distresses, gently brought up, no pressure, be friends at this point. And if he approach you sexually, then take it from there, but express none of your sexual expectations for future encounters, lay off any and all pressure?

anita