I say time is the best solution at this point because my sister seems to want some distance. Keep poking at that alligator and it will snap back. When I was referring to time, I was not referring to months or even years. I was not clear in that statement but I was figuring on giving her at least a month to chill.

To answer your questions:

1. My sister has expressed resentment not only to my parents but to me. Which is why I am very confident about what I said earlier about my parents not treating her equally.

2. I do not think there is any justification for my parent’s actions. I think it just happens. I cannot fathom a reason why they would purposely do it other than seeing results from one child rather than the other. In other words, parents may feel that when one child does not show efforts toward reaching a certain goal but another child does, it would be more reasonable to put their energy into the one who will be more promising. I am not condoning this behavior or defending their choices. I cannot answer for them.