Thank you Mark.  I just wish I knew what it was.  He did say he hasn’t been in the mood for over a month now, but I am fearful it is some type of porn addiction that he is hiding very well.  However he also has gained weight, stopped working out, drinks beer, sleeping much more than usual, has literally no morning erections, plays a lot of video games, hasn’t been eating well, and doesn’t have any friends around since we moved to a new state.   I am trying hard not to take it personal and to stop being angry.  I’ve done better and have purposefully been more positive and affectionate.