Yes, I am working to not get overly emotional when  I speak to him.  I believe I am learning I am much more hurt than I thought.  I agree with the wife part that it is fair since he pays most of the bills, I work full time and pay my own personal bills, gas,  and grocery shop but he pays the rent/utilities/etc.  Maybe I am meaning more of a wife demeanor… sometimes I feel like I may even  be too motherly.  I do want to marry him, however these issues need to be spoken about and working towards resolution before  that would be appropriate, in my opinion.  He brings up marriage/children often, more in the recent months as well.