Yes, I also give the silent treatment but have been working to stop.  I tend to punish him this way for things he may not have even done (anxious mind creates drama).  Father was physically abusive, cheated on my BF’s mother, brought new women into the home a lot.  Has a new family and provides for her children more than he ever did for my BF and his siblings.   I am not sure how they have worked to mend this, and I think I need to start asking, as he actually brought this up quite randomly over dinner last week.  I let him talk and validated his frustration and confusion.  He has never looked at me like that and shared his pain so casually.  I felt connected.