Hey Ben.

Well, from my perspective I don’t think so. The decision on whether to have a family or not is one of the bigger ones a couple faces and needs working through honestly and openly to come out with a decision that works for you both without either of you feeling you have compromised on something you will regret later, either together or in your future separate lives, however it turns out.

You may want to think about how to keep this clear from some of the baggage of other history here in previous decisions so as not to muddy the waters. I suspect both of you have been surprised by the change in how you as a couple are managing this one, where you aren’t simply letting it go like other decisions you didn’t care so much about.  Which is a good thing to help you both have a more balanced conversation. Just always remember that having children is such an emotive, social pressure subject, especially for women. Parents want grand-kids, the family line continued, a legacy, society wonders why you don’t want kids, why you aren’t sticking to the script, friends & family with kids want you to join their ‘club’ , all kinds of reasons that are nothing to do with why or if you and your wife would like to be a family or not.

Fwiw, I’ve seen people go both ways on these decisions and it’s worked out both well and bad.  The key has always been to be as honest as possible and come to a decision that works for you & your wife first.

Hope helps.