Dear MG:

If you are so burdened by his depression and his need for help, and because the two of you are employed, you can give him a monetary gift of, let’s say, about 100 dollars, or the equivalent of a few therapy sessions with a quality psychotherapist and encourage him to invest his own money in his own therapy. You can research therapists and printout a list of possible therapists that may help him.

I am not suggesting that you do this. What I am suggesting is that you are not the professional help that he needs. Even if you were a certified psychotherapist, it is impossible for a professional to treat a patient with whom the therapist is in love. So giving him a monetary gift toward his therapy makes way more sense than being the girlfriend/”therapist” of a married man.

anita