Dear Grayhat:

In a culture where a man needs his parents to  approve of a wife, it was a mistake to tell your parents what a terrible woman she was to you and then get back with her, seeking their approval.

In the future, for as long as you need your parents approval of  woman to be your wife, do  not tell them anything at all about a woman you  date. Or tell them  only positive things in case you will be considering to marry the woman. Do not repeat the mistake you made here.

As far as this situation you are in, a question: will you be able to live a peaceful life being married and having a family with a woman who your parents disapprove of?

Another question: when in the past your parents disapproved of a choice you made, or a choice your brother or sister made, did your parents ever change their minds and approved what they previously disapproved of?

anita