Hi Valora,

Thank you for your words. I am aware that this situation is the result of his actions, and that it’s not essentially my fault. I’m conflicted because I may be happy in my new relationship, but he’s still very much present. It also scares me that, as much as I want him to move forward, I don’t know what it’ll be like for me when he does… Knowing he regrets his decision was something I thought would be good for me (emotionally speaking), because it had been very difficult for me to accept that someone who i know loved me so much and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me, could break things off so suddenly. For the months that I was grieving I blamed him and this helped me reaffirm myself. But his change of heart has taken that away from me, if that makes any sense. Previously, I could rationalize that this was the result of his actions, and that I didn’t want it to happen, but now it has been me that has had to deny us of a future together by refusing to get back together and I don’t feel the right to blame him anymore, only to feel sorry he is suffering because of me.