Andrea,

Like I said, I don’t mean to discount what you have been through with this person or with your past.

Yes to open yourself up about your abuse, especially when you are not healed to someone who is not a compassionate human then that can be doubly painful.

Glad that you are getting help.  I know several friends who have had trauma and abuse.  It’s a long and tough road to heal and develop tools to take care of yourself.

I find I need to continuing to tune myself to discern who I can trust and how much I stayed shielded from others.  Fortunately I am fairly emotionally resilient and had no abuse in my past.

How old are you?  How many close/romantic relationships have you had?

Mark