Hi Hella,

His mixed signals to you when in a relationship with someone else is a bad sign. You already know that.

Anita wrote “…he is your mirror, what you saw in his face/ body as he interacted with you many times was something beautiful, intensely desirable. You want to see yourself this way again! It is difficult to let go of this view of yourself.”  This is so true! You know logically that the mixed signals he gives you when he’s committed to someone else says something about his character, but it feels so good to be desired by this particular guy that you get drawn in. Don’t get drawn in anymore.

The way you feel about yourself when he’s not in the picture is far more important than the way you feel about yourself when he’s interacting with you. I think the key is in being content and at peace with where you are in your life right now. For me, meditation and mindfulness help a lot. Imagine getting to the point where you feel so at peace that the thought of resuming a romantic relationship with this guy makes you cringe.

B