Anita,

Your summary is almost exact, the only thing is he moved out in October of 2018, just 2 weeks after I initially found them together. He claims that they did not have a physical relationship of any kind until after he moved out in October, frankly, I have a hard time believing that. That being said, I don’t have any hard evidence of him being physically intimate with her until the day after he left our home.

He is an incredibly caring, thoughtful, kind, giving person. Everyone in our circles and our family always noticed how he doted on me and it was so clear that he genuinely loved me.

To bring in some history, my father left my mother when I was in college after having cheated on my Mom with a much younger woman, who he met through work. The situation isn’t identical, but very similar to what’s going on in mine and my husband’s relationship right now. What’s ironic, is that my husband and I had talked about what my dad to  my mom, at length and my husband was incredibly judgmental of my dad for doing what he did. My husband said he’d been cheated on by previous girlfriends and could  never do that to someone, he didnt’ understand how my dad could do what he did, etc etc. As I said, it’s just ironic how hypocritical he’s become.

Part of what is odd, as well, is not only how poorly he’s treated me in all of this, but him removing himself from his friends’ lives, too. He’s a very social, charismatic person and for him to stop spending time with our friends is incredibly bizarre. From what I hear, he’s spending all of his time with his new girlfriend and neglecting his friendships. I hope this answers your question.