Hi Elizabeth!

I read a blog the other day that I thought was really good. When someone was asked whether they thought their ex would come back or not, they simply replied “Live like you’re expecting them not to.”  I think it’s always good to have hope and there is also literally NO LEGITIMATE WAY to know what the future will hold. He may realize in a few months once the honeymoon wears off that he made a HUGE mistake and was being guided by his inner turmoil rather than by what he would want otherwise. He may not come back at all. There’s no way to say for sure, so I like that line of thinking… that it’s best to move on like you don’t expect to get back together but that it’s okay to not lose hope, just the same, especially if your intuition is telling you to keep hope or if you’re not at that point where you feel ready to let go of it. I feel like sometimes when we try to push ourselves for something we’re not ready to do yet, it can bring on some cognitive dissonance, and that can practically cause as much suffering as the initial betrayal did.

P.S. I think I accidentally hit “report” when I was trying to hit “reply” to your post. My screen jumped around right when I did it, so in case it gets taken down, I apologize for that. I definitely didn’t mean to click on that. They should put that link on the opposite side or something so it isn’t right next to the “reply” link.