Dear Kenneth:

You dated a co worker for more than a year, it was your first relationship. You broke up  Oct 2018 and later, you tried to resume the relationship by “sending her gifts to apologize” (apologize for what, you didn’t specify), and texting her a few times in the middle of the night. Later you wrote her a letter to apologize for your behavior and left her alone.

You noticed that while in no contact, she liked some of your Instagram posts and that she wore a pair of earrings you bought her almost every day. You then initiated contact, texted her, but what followed was that she cleared some of the stuff you got her from her desk and stopped wearing those earrings and has been acting cold to you, giving off “a very resistant vibe”. What you experience with her at work is “just a casual smile but no communication”.

You wrote that you don’t know if she hates you, is afraid of you, disgusted by you, doesn’t know what to  do, or is running away.

You wrote that you “decided to move on and stop contacting her since 1st Feb”-

Question: why did you break up Oct last year, was it her initiative to break up with you at that time and if so, did she tell you why she was breaking up with you?

anita