Hi BB,

I’m not sure I understand this situation. Soon after you proposed to her, she tells you she’s not sure she wants children but the two of you get married anyway. After a year of marriage (about 6 months ago) she breaks down, tells you again that she’s not sure she wants children and that she’s afraid you’ll leave her because of this.

You definitely want children, so you want to determine if she really doesn’t want children or if she’s “afraid” to have them, so she’s now in therapy to determine this. You hope one of two things happens: 1) if indeed fear is her problem, that therapy will help her overcome that fear, or 2) as she gets older she simply changes her mind and decides she does want children after all (your mom thinks this will happen).

Do I have this right?

B