Dear lilroo,

I was married for 26 years to a man who is a sex addict. I didn’t realize it of course. I never knew what was my level of sex drive, as I never got to the point of feeling a sexual urge. We had a lot of sex (3x/day was his minimum amount to keep him from being angry). Eventually I realized that I didn’t even feel like I was in the room. It was all about his need for release. It had nothing to do with love or spiritual communication. When I did reject his sexual advances I would receive his anger.

I hope this is not your situation. Can you ask your man if he is feeling overwhelmed by your sexual needs? You say this has not been an issue in past relationships. What is your sexual need per day/week/month. Ask your man what is ideal for him. IF this is a deal breaker then you may want to consider moving on. Sex can’t make a relationship but it surely can break a relationship.

Good Luck